42

42.  We all know it’s the secret of life, the universe and everything.  Sometimes the stars align just right…sometimes things work so that at any given time it means much more.  Today is one of those times.

It was on this day 42 years ago that my parents were married.  They’ve done a lot together in those years.  They built a house.  They raised a family.  They worked as hard as they could to give their children a solid platform from which to launch their own lives.

Most of all, they made it work.  I’m sure it hasn’t always been easy.  There are times of mutterings and grumblings from either (or both) of them.  For whatever reason they made it work.  They never saw a problem that was so big that it would tear asunder what God had put together.

Congratulations on 42, mom and dad!

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Memorial Day

“…in a larger sense we can not dedicate – we can not consecrate – we can not hallow this ground. The brave men, living and dead, who struggled, here, have consecrated it far above our poor power to add or detract. The world will little note, nor long remember, what we say here, but can never forget what they did here.

It is for us, the living, rather to be dedicated here to the unfinished work which they have, thus far, so nobly carried on. It is rather for us to be here dedicated to the great task remaining before us – that from these honored dead we take increased devotion to that cause for which they here gave the last full measure of devotion – that we here highly resolve that these dead shall not have died in vain; that this nation shall have a new birth of freedom; and that this government of the people, by the people, for the people, shall not perish from the earth.

-Abraham Lincoln


Actions Have Consequences

That actions have consequences is something that every person should learn.  Unfortunately, this process is retarded sometimes in our modern society.  A child fails at something and his or her parents provide cover by hurling accusations at a coach or teacher.  Perhaps the parents do it more passively where they simply assure their child that it wasn’t their fault.  This at least has its roots in altruism.  Most parents want to spare their children from the truths of the world for as long as possible.  By shielding them, they are trying to protect them.  Sometimes it even works…but not every time.

It happens still with adults, but usually for different reasons.  In my life in the media, I took Truman’s famous quote and amended it for that business, “The buck stops over there somewhere.”  The higher up you were, the less likely you were to face any repercussions from your actions.  Decades old equipment falling apart?  It’s the engineer’s fault for not using more duct tape and baling wire.  Or it’s the photographer/truck operator’s fault that the generator didn’t start.  It absolutely isn’t the fault of the person who took the full year’s equipment budget for the news department and instead of upgrading the old, broken down stuff, replaced Super Mega Advanced Doplar with Super Mega Advanced Doplar Plus.

This situation is being played out in the media right now with George Zimmerman.  Zimmerman, as you may already know, shot and killed a boy after some manner of altercation in Sanford, Florida in late February.  Many people are working hard to make sure Zimmerman never experiences any repercussions for this action.  Without digging into the right or wrongs of it, Zimmerman should feel bad.  Taking the life of another human being is something that causes soldiers to have flashbacks.  It takes law enforcement officers who were once great in the field and sends them to desk jobs while they have time to work through the psychological implications of killing a person.

More importantly, you should feel bad if you kill someone.  Of course not everyone is religious, but not killing people is a central tenant of the most popular religions.  It’s why judges and juries are used to mete out death sentences…because people generally feel bad about sending people to their deaths.  People have to be specially trained and put in specific circumstances to make that sort of decision.

George Zimmerman went into hiding shortly after this event, refusing to address the incident at all.  His father has gone on the record multiple times in attempts to protect his son from any negative consequences from killing Trayvon Martin.  Now Zimmerman the Younger has launched a website where he seeks public support because of the damage going into hiding has caused him.  He had to quit school and work to hide.  He has been cut off from the world because he is hiding.  He’s asking for support because hiding from consequences can get expensive.

What George Zimmerman needs to learn is that killing someone is not something that should be done lightly.  Killing someone is something that has consequences that ripple out like a pebble in still water.  His life is changed.  His parent’s lives are changed.  Trayvon Martin’s life is not just changed, but over.  His parent’s lives are changed.  When you decide it’s better to kill a kid instead of being beaten up by him, it has consequences.  Llikewise when you decide to damage so many lives, there are consequences.  I suggest it is time for George Zimmerman to learn to live with all of those consequences.


Papers Done, Comps on Monday

I got a job!  Kind of.  I’m heading back to Eastern Europe to work with a women’s health NGO for a few months.  There will be compensation!  That’s pretty important.  To accommodate that, things at OU have been zipping right along.  I had to complete all my work for my classes before leaving.  I wrote 26 pages last weekend to finish up one class.  Now all that’s left is my date with destiny:  I will take the comprehensive final exams on Monday.

Wish me luck!